Last night, Emily was invited to attend a birthday party for a friend of hers from school. The birthday party is this evening. Emily is currently grounded for having throw a temper tantrum and yelling at Phil last weekend. So, Emily was told she couldn't go to the party.
After much begging and pleading and trying to make me feel sorry for the other girl (only one person is going to her party), I told Emily that my answer was final and that if I heard one more word on the subject she would be grounded for another week and would possibly have her own birthday party this weekend canceled. So, Emily went in her room and cried for a while.
Later, Emily came out and gave me a big hug and told me that I was a "good mom." I asked her what made her say that, and she told me that I was a good mom for not letting her go to the party and punishing her for misbehaving. Can you believe that?!
It looks like all of my explanations of why I punish the girls for misbehaving and disobeying have finally sunken in. At least with Emily, anyway. When your kids thank you for punishing them, you know you must be doing something right!