Saturday, January 12, 2008

Date Night... er, Afternoon

I went on a date today! With my husband! Without the kids! Woo-hoo!!!

I had this great idea for Phil and me to get out and do something together without the children. Since Sarah and Emily were supposed to be with their sperm-donor this weekend, all I needed to do was find a babysitter for Katie. So, I asked my mother to come to Emily's soccer game this morning and take Katie home with her after the game.

You see, my plan was to go see a movie with my husband. The last few times I have been to the movie theater it was with the girls, and usually to see a kids' movie. So, I thought it would be nice if Phil got to see a movie in the theater for once. And since I'm cheap, we had to go during the day to save money on the tickets.

So, after making arrangements with my mom to babysit Katie, I went online yesterday to purchase our movie tickets*. Everything was all arranged. I told Phil about our date last night when he got home from work, and he was happy. Of course, he wasn't exactly sure he would like my movie selection, but I assured him that he would** and also that it was the only movie that I was interested in seeing that fit into our limited time frame.

Well, as fate would have it, the ever-unreliable sperm-donor was a no-show for Emily's game (from which he was supposed to pick up Sarah and Emily). Of course, since my mother was taking Katie home from the game with her, I just sent the older girls home with her, too. Crisis averted!

So, Phil and I went to see the movie Juno. It was absolutely wonderful! The writing was fantastic. The acting was beautiful. The soundtrack was awesome. I just don't have enough great things to say about this movie. Juno is a sweet story about a pregnant teenage girl who decides to give up her baby for adoption rather than abort it. If you haven't seen it yet, I highly recommend it.

*I actually mistakenly bought tickets for yesterday's showing instead of today's, so I had to exchange them for the correct date.

**Yes, he loved it, too.


betty said...

I read your blog, I would like to tell you a story. You mentioned your girls father as a sperm donor. How sad for you, that is their father. My mother for years told me and my siblings how a scum my father was, and when I turned 23 I found out the truth the dirt was my mother, my youngest brother was not my fathers child she never told him and he paid child support for him until he reached 18. Your feelings about their father is yours, do not impose your thoughts and feelings on them. We have stopped talking to my mother she is not welcomed in our lives anymore. She denied us the joy of having a father in our lives, she imposed her husband on us, he was alright but there is nothing like your own father.

Melodie said...

Thanks for reading, Betty. I am sorry if you were offended and that your mother did that to you. However, my situation is quite different from that. I encourage my children's father to be a part of their lives, unfortunately they can't count on him to be there, and when he doesn't show up for things or doesn't keep his promises to them, they get very hurt and I get very mad that he has caused my children pain.
Things have gotten worse since he got married, since his new wife doesn't seem to want my children around. They have a new baby who is already three months old and his wife has refused to allow my children to meet their half-sister. What kind of father lets this happen? Every weekend that he has my girls, he promises them that they will get to meet her, and every weekend there is another excuse.

betty said...

My suggestion to you, for the girls sake, contact the ex's wife. Not to complain but because of your concern. Those girls need to know they are loved its important. Their dad is wrong in leading them on, he might not think of it at the time, but a dads promises are very important to them. Trust me because of the issues with my parents, my mom was never telling the honest truth, so contact her, not to have a shouting match or anything, but maybe you can meet and talk. In the old days they used to say it took an entire neighborhood to raise a child, and it is true. All should contribute in the healthy upbringing of our children.

Anonymous said...

Wow, I think that is interesting that that is what is being said. I (current wife) am still waiting for the girls to come to our house. This weekend for example he told me that he was only getting sarah and would meet emily at the game and that would be his only time with the girls until next week. So I am only going by what i am told (if the girls are sick, have a busy schedule ect) I will be fixing this situation i think stories are being made up to make someone look like the innocent one

Melodie said...

Dear Anonymous,
I think that you really need to speak to your husband about your concerns. If what you are claiming is true, then we must both be being lied to.
Every reason he has given as to why my girls have not met this child involves you not allowing it for one reason or another. My favorite excuse was that the baby hadn't had any vaccinations. That one was priceless, really, considering the fact that anything that the baby could get a vaccine for, my children have already been vaccinated against and therefore couldn't possibly bring into your home. And yes, I did tell him that, and he said that he knew that, but that it was your excuse and he couldn't change your mind.
I have made none of this up. I have no reason to make anything up. So, if you weren't responsible for these excuses, maybe you should ask your husband why he has been making this all up. Maybe it's because he is too lazy to take the girls for a visit and he really is just lying to the both of us. I really don't care, but I would prefer that my girls not be lied to.