Saturday, May 24, 2008

I Tried

You know, I tried. I really, really tried. I thought it would be in the best interest of my two older daughters if I could get along with their step-mother. Even though they barely spend any time with her, and she has no influence in their lives, I thought it would still be nice. I truly do not like to have negative feelings about anybody. But some people just make being nice to them impossible.

It's one thing to have the gall to selfishly spend my children's child support money. It's is a completely different thing to try to control my children's relationship with their father. My children should be able to communicate with their father without going through her. Why should they have to worry about her reading their letters to their father? Or even worse than that, discarding their letters and telling their father that they just don't care enough to write to him?

And on the child support issue, the Army, for some reason (most likely the ex's fault), did not take out the child support payment from their father's paycheck, which was deposited into the step-mother's bank account. So, what did she do? Not what she should have, which is turn around and pay the child support out of the paycheck. Nope, she decided the money was hers to do with as she pleased. When she was "informed" of the error, she decided that all she could be bothered to give up was a measly $100, which the state still has not received.

I could go on and on about how my children have been mistreated and slighted ever since their father hooked up with this girl, but I won't. I'd probably end up with carpal tunnel syndrome if I did. Of course, in all honesty, she doesn't deserve all of the blame here. If my ex was any kind of real man, any kind of real father, he wouldn't put up with this kind of selfish behavior from his wife, or wouldn't have hooked up with someone like that in the first place. If he were any kind of real father, he would put the needs of these girls first.

3 comments:

Debbie said...

I have to tell you, I am on the other end...When George and I got married, I was the stepmother and he still paid a little child support which turned into alimony when his son went on his own. (Next July, we are done with the alimony). One thing George said and agreed 110% with was that the child comes first. That child support was there ON TIME EVERY MONTH. The rotten part was that this was going fine because they worked out their own agreement...Once someone told her to get a lawyer, he was actually required to pay less. But that never happened. There was ALWAYS extra PLUS some cash given to him when he visited...Now don't get me started on the alimony part...The b*tch can work and she could of all along, instead of sleeping around, especially with George's best friend...

But I am sorry you are going through this...I know child support is a huge problem in our country and I lucked out marrying a man that always considered his children first...I wouldn't have wanted him if he didn't...

The stepmom needs to step back period!!!!

Melodie said...

Debbie,
I'm on the other side, too, as Phil has a son from his first marriage. And, yes, his son's child support is paid consistently and on time. Even when Phil was working for himself and not having his child support taken out of his paycheck, I made sure that the child support payment was made before any of our bills were paid.
One of the reasons I fell in love with Phil was because he was such a good father. I certainly wouldn't want someone who wasn't a good father to be raising my children.

Debbie said...

Well, I never really just summed it up like this, but you and I supported/reminded/pushed/maybe even the check writer, but did what we had to do for our husbands....That's where this woman is lacking and for what...No other way to put this, but she came after you daughters..she's an after thought...To keep that $$$ when clearly she knew, urks me...I could imagine how you actually feel....

Good for Phil...He's one of the good guys...LOL!